By Vernalee
As women, we respect bathroom etiquette. We respect males who have consideration. There is nothing worse than going to the toilet/commode and inadvertently falling in because the lid was left up! Sitting on a dry clean toilet seat is so very thoughtful and comforting. Can I get a witness?
So, drum roll please. “If you sprinkle when you tinkle, be a sweetie and wipe the seatie!”
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By Vernalee
Someone has been hurt; their feelings are bruised; their anger shows. What do you do? Did you cause the problem? Does the other party think that you caused the problem? Does it really matter? Is too much emphasis placed on who did what rather than moving on? Does it matter who says "I'm sorry" first? Simple, but complex questions, these are! Some folks think that saying you're sorry and apologizing are signs of weakness. If you say you're sorry first, is it an admission of guilt or a posture of inferiority? Contrary to that popular belief, an acknowledgement of error is really a sign of strength. It takes great courage to come forth; to confront the issues. Dormancy signifies weakness; not strength. Sometimes, it doesn't matter who was wrong or right. Maybe, it was a misunderstanding or lack of clarity in communication. Regardless, saying your're sorry should not be a contest of victory or defeat. "I'm sorry are two of the strongest words in the dictionary. Don't be stubborn and lose or destroy what you have delicately taken time to build...because you can't utter the words. That's a posture for cowards; not selfless winners! Be the "bigger person" and not the biggest loser!
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By Vernalee
Have you ever tried to put a puzzle together and couldn't determine where selected pieces went? I have! There typically is an illustration of how the puzzle should look when perfectly assembled. Despite the colorful picturesque guide, the assembly can be tricky; putting the right puzzle shapes in the right places can be difficult, challenging, frustrating, ... and enjoyable (when the pieces come together as a whole). It can be comparable to placing a square peg in a round hole. In like manner, it is also similar to placing people where they don't belong or fit. You can't change the "shape" of who they are. Allow me to "Vernalize" with a slight modification of a famous Johnnie Cochran quote, "If they don't fit, you must quit".. trying to forcibly place persons where you want them to be, but where they don't fit. Stop the madness! Stop being stressed out over someone else’s choices when they don’t coincide with what you think their course of action should be. You can't make people fit your plan. That’s your master plan, not theirs. You can advise, direct and counsel. The choice to decide their next steps belongs to them. Remember, you’ve the architect of your life - not theirs! The responsibility and outcome of your choices determine your path and destiny ... as does theirs!
The below poem says it best.
Life’s Puzzle
Life is like a jigsaw puzzle So many pieces come with it We gather them as we live each day To see just how they fit
Some people start with the edges Some start with corners too Others go for the middle It’s always up to you
Hold each piece, embrace them To see where it will go Sometimes they fit so easily Then times you never know
Think of these as people Each one’s a different piece Some we meet won’t fit at all Others will fit with ease
We go through life and gather We use and lose some too! Some become good memories Some leave us sad and blue
Some pieces seem to get away They’re like tiny grains of sand We think we have them held real tight But they slip right through our hands
I guess we are all just looking for One, rare and special piece The final one to finish our Life long masterpiece
Our puzzles will be complete When it happens you will know The Puzzle comes together By the pieces you don’t let go!
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www.i.myniceprofile.com; poem by George A. Burgagni