SITTING ON PENS AND NEEDLES

By Vernalee

Have you ever been anxiously waiting to hear from someone to get the latest news or results? Have you been so anxious that you paced the floor walking as if there is no tomorrow? For reasons of anxiety, you simply cannot sit down! If the answer is yes, join the crowd. Many refer to this anxiousness as sitting on pins and needles. So, what does that mean? “Sitting on pins and needs” is used to describe someone who can’t sit still/rest easily, often because of anxiousness/worry/impatience. You can become highly agitated while waiting for something to happen. The expected event can be either good or bad. The phrase describes many facets of our lives. Our emotions can be all over the board. It begs to ask – How can we effectively deal with anxiety? Let’s see what the experts recommend that we do to cope. Here are some suggested steps. 1. Identify the source of your anxiety. 2. Determine if your worry is solvable. 3. Accept uncertainty. 4. Consider the use and source of your worry. 5. Focus on both the positive and the negative. 6. Avoid thinking in terms of all or nothing. 7. Don’t make it into a catastrophe. 8. Try not to jump to conclusions. 9. Don’t let your emotions control your reasoning. 10. Avoid making everything personal. The more we practice reducing our stress, the better. There are so many issues that we cannot escape or run away from; so many that we must face. Once we deal with the stress pockets, we can move on. If we don’t, we will resort back to sitting on pins and needles! Pins and needles hurt! They pierce your skin. Ouch! Be comfortable. I want my buttock to be cushioned. Don’t you?

Reasonable people don’t go looking for trouble. No one wants to be purposefully hurt and feel the accompanying pain and anxiety. If you can avoid what you know will hurt, why not? Replacing anxieties with pleasurable calmness/comfort is the goal. It's a goal worthy of achieving. Agreed? Photo credit: www.cl/talkleft.com; Source: www.wikihow.com

DON'T TAKE PEOPLE FOR GRANTED

By Vernalee

Don't take someone's kindness for granted. I learned a long time ago that no one owes me anything! Showing appreciation to those who have helped me goes a long way. I have had several people who have given of themselves and wanted nothing in return. If you ever get confused over the concept of taking someone for granted, just ask yourself one question. Would you do for them what they did for you? Your answer will reveal the magnitude of their generosity and kindness. I am thankful for the hands who have helped me through my journeys of everyday living. In fact, to use the words of rapper greats - Big Sean, Drake, and Kanye, "Way Up, I feel blessed!" You see, I feel duty bound to help others as I have been helped. One good turn deserves another! Hebrew 13:16 tells us "to not forget to do good and share with others, for with such sacrifices, God is pleased."

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WHAT PRONOUN DESCRIBES YOUR RELATIONSHIP

By Vernalee

It is amazing how a simple pronoun tells what is going on in a relationship! Listen up!

Which pronoun will it be – I, us, we, or me? Perhaps, the better question is what pronoun does your mate use? Which pronoun describes your and his interactions? Does he say we, but his actions are more synonymous to me? Do you consider him in all of your actions while he considers only himself? Alright, let’s get a little technical. The only printed difference between me and we is the first letter. Tbe two words (We and me) even rhyme, but their meaning are vastly different; light years apart. If your collective movements and actions are congruent, all is well. However, if you and your “yours truly” are moving in two different directions, there is a problem. Perhaps, the time has come for the two of you to get off on the next exit! Single minded thinking doesn’t successfully work in relationships. Togetherness is plural. Why make it complex when the math is simple? 1+1= 2. 1+0= 1. When you are committed to each other, you consider the other person; after all, they are in the plan. Right?

Single-minded people only think of themselves so they should probably be by themselves! Just saying ..

.For those whose use of singular directed pronouns doesn't match their actions, the time may be ripe to say a noun that is fitting - Adios (Good-bye)! Why waste your time or make someone else's life miserable when you have the choice to do otherwise!

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