BIRDS OF THE SAME FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER

By Vernalee

I have a question for you. Why do you associate with that group? I’ll tell you why! It’s simple – Birds of the same feather flock together. That phrase means that people with similar likes, appearance, or behavior hang together, as in a clique. Commonly, because of the comfort zones, people of the same sort or with the same tastes and interests enjoy the company of each other. There are so many expressions that speak to associations. Allow me to share a few: * You become like the five people you spend the most time with. Choose carefully. * Show me who your friends are and I will show you who you are. * When you have to start compromising your values for the people around you, it’s probably time to change the people around you. * If you want to identify someone’s character, examine the friends he sits with. * Associate yourself with people of good quality for it is better to be alone than in bad company. * The law of attraction is that you don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are. * If birds of the same feather flock together, it may be time to upgrade your flock. * Whoever walk with the wise becomes wise, but the companions of fools will suffer harm. Proverbs 13:20. Therefore, sometimes we have to break ties, shake a tail feather, and disassociate. Though we may feel comfortable with the familiarity of our group, it’s may be time to move on. Your growth and progress may be stymied. You may desire to reach beyond normalcy and achieve your greatest potential. Don’t remain in a clutter with folks who have no where to go when your goal is to move upward. Leave the nest. Look and go beyond. Spread your wings like the eagle! Become a symbol of power, respect, and freedom even if you “fly” alone. Responsibly shape your own destiny rather than letting others shape it for you. Fly the coop! Photo credit: www.studydelay.net

FRIENDSHIP 101

By Vernalee

For the record, you don’t need to take a class (Friendship 101), to determine who your real friends are. Your heart, love, body & soul, and evidence of treatment will tell you! Friends that you love and who love you; friends who care about you and your well-being; sincere friends; respectful friends……..who could ask for anything more! When you pick up your phone to talk to a true friend, it appears as if they are in the next room though they may be miles apart. Distance is immaterial. Though schedules may prevent you from getting together frequently, they are never far! Feed, water, and nurture your true friends because the value of true friendship is priceless! You are connected through your hearts and you become a blessing to each other! I am truly blessed to have a true friend. Are you? Photo credit: www.thedailyquotes.com

BE THE FRIEND YOU WANT TO HAVE

By Vernalee

FRIENDSHIP. The subject is timeless; it never grows old. So let’s examine our wish list. First things first. It is unreasonable to expect from others what you are not willing to give. That sounds hypocritical…don’t you think? So whatever attributes you desire from a friend, you should be willing to give. Agreed? Fair play? Listen up as we examine some friendship guidelines. 1. Avoid competition. 2. Avoid gossip. 3. Confront wisely. 4. Forgive. 5. Maintain friendships; treat them with care. 6. Celebrate best friends. 7. Let your friendships serve as a mirror. 8. Make changes, if needed. You are allowed. 9. Create a healthy community of friends with the reality that just because you are the nucleus that your friends may not become friends to each other. 10. Give everyone their space. 11. Explore your expectations. 12. Befriend yourself. Now I ask… Who can you confidentially talk to and get the best possible advice? Who wants you to succeed no matter what? Who will be there for you when everyone walks away? Who will be there when you are up, down or in a turnaround? Answer: A true friend. Remember this. Everyone needs someone. No one is an island. Having a true friend is valuable. True friendship doesn’t come around often. If you have one true friend, you are lucky. Two – would be a steal! When you find a true friend, keep him or her close. Don’t ask for something that you are not willing to give! Think of others; do for others. Don’t be a talker only; show that you care. Cherish being a true friend as much as having a true friend! It’s a treasure! Photo credit: www.of-the-heart.com; Source: www.crosswalk.com