SO MUCH FOR OTHER PEOPLE...

By Vernalee

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” – Lao Tzu

Are you concerned about how others view you? Absolutely! Most of us are. Most of us care. It is only human nature to want to be liked and accepted. However, this very desire can often lead to worrying too much about what others are thinking about you. When all is stripped away, our character is what remains. Being a person of your "word" is a true and visible testament to who you are and how you are viewed. It's our reputation walking before us! Remember - we are who we are regardless of what other folks think or say about us! Being confronted by unfounded gossip, untruthful remarks, and negative conversations, though hurtful deserve ignoring. Why waste your time getting caught up in other folks' thoughts? Our path should be rid of stumbling blocks - be they people, places, or things. Stop fretting! We know who we are!

Assertively, put negativism behind you. Don't let it ruin your positive vibes. For certain, negative grooves will slow your progression. Move at your own speed! You'll arrive at your destination much faster!

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ARE YOU ON THE SAME PAGE?

By Vernalee

Are you speaking the same language? Are you listening to each other? Is what is being said matches what is being done? Why do you continue to ask certain questions when the answers should be obvious? In other words, is the person “walking the talk?” Comfortably, you should be able to take a colleague's or partner's word and vice versa at face value. Nothing beats a person doing what he/she said. Keeping your word and living up to your commitment are foundational principles. If you can’t satisfy those terms, you may as well close the book altogether. In order to make substantial progress and be in agreement, being on the same page is fundamental. If you have to see, discern, or ask what page you're on after a substantial period of time, there is undoubtedly a disconnect. Being on the same page may not be the right question; remaining where you are with who you are with may be a more suitable ask! This theory applies whether it is a personal or professional relationship. Trust is too essential!

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DON'T TAKE PEOPLE FOR GRANTED

By Vernalee

One of the worst things that you can do is to take someone's kindness for granted. It can be heartbreaking! I learned a long time ago that no one owes me anything! Showing appreciation to those who have help me along the way and particularly to those who bent over backwards go a long way. I have had several people who have given of themselves and didn't want anything in return. I have had others who gave and never reminded me of what they had done. How sweet it is! If you ever get confused over the concept of taking someone for granted, just ask yourself one question. Would you do for them what they did for you? Your answer will reveal the magnitude of your reciprocity and the spirit and generosity of their kindness. I am thankful for my blessings and the hands who have helped me through my journeys of everyday living. In fact, to use the words of rapper greats - Big Sean, Drake, and Kanye, "Way Up, I feel blessed!" You see, I don't take demonstrated kindness, consideration, or assistance for granted. I feel duty bound to help others as I have been help ... not to show off or even up the score, but to enrich another life. One good turn deserves another! Blessings will definitely come your way! Hebrew 13:16 tells us to not take things for granted and "to not forget to do good and share with others, for with such sacrifices, God is pleased."

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