FIGURING OUT LUKEWARM PEOPLE

By Vernalee

Allow me to introduce you to a group of folks defined as “lukewarm” people. You know and see them as frequently as I. Those are the ones who do just enough to get by which makes it even more complicated. Their luke warmness protects them which makes their behaviors harder to gauge. They play games so that you cannot ascertain whether they are hot or cold.

They are bare minimum and serial piecemeal specialists. Though it may be scarce, they minimally come through in a clutch.

“A little here; a little there” is their motto. Go figure! They will truly never be inconvenienced for anyone other than themselves.

Why are you so disappointed? Is it because you do more for them than they do for you? Or do you think that they could/should do more? Are you focusing too much energy and time on them?

Stop worrying about them.

Just don’t be like them! At the end of the day, whether hot, cold, or lukewarm, they will be judged on their deeds just as you!

Touché! Photo credit: www.the politicalcarnival.net

WHO ARE YOUR FRIENDS?

By Vernalee

Crossing racial, gender, and socio-economics lines, I call a selected few my true friends. They are my friends not for how they look or what they have, but for the genuine relationship that we share.

It is said that you basically need five types of friends. Without calling my friends by name, let me provide you with their descriptions. The comedian is the friend who makes you laugh and interjects humor into your life. The risk taker is the adventurer who stimulates you beyond the status quo. The loyalist will stand by your side through thick and thin no matter what. The challenger always encourages you to maximize your position. The life coach is the friend who you can talk to about anything without judgment being passed. A few of my friends have amazingly combined these five ingredients into one. From Mississippi to Ohio with an extension into multiple other states, I am truly blessed as I have these wonderful loving people in my life. Their professions are too multiple to outline. Regardless of what they do on their day jobs or if they don't work at all, I believe that they sincerely care about me as I care about them! We genuinely want the best for each other and do not begrudge the other. Encouragement is in; jealously is out. Love flows in all direction as does our advice. I made a basic discovery years ago – The type of friend that you are is just as important as the type of friend that you have! Like a magnet, you attract what you are! It is my responsibility to be there for them as they are for me. The measurement stick has been removed. We just do! It is a two way street. It is what friends do! Photo credit: www.gettyimages.com

ARE YOU A PERSON OF YOUR WORD?

By Vernalee

Are you a man or woman of your word? Do you do what you say? Is your word your bond? Does a handshake deal mean anything anymore? Don't answer me, your words and actions tell the truth every time!

Listen Up!

When you tell folks that you will do something, you create an expectation. In some cases, that expectation forms a reliance. So when you don’t execute on what you committed to do, not only were you untruthful, you disappointed and failed people who relied upon your word/commitment. Untruthfulness damages when your actions don’t coincide with your words! Once again, that small tongue caused big harm! It created an expectation that was not executed. It became a deep rooted and lingering by product that entered the memory banks of a person mind and buried its pain in their hearts. Lies have the ability to stick to a person’s heart like glue. It’s no wonder that when your words become lies that people become heartbroken! The answer to it all is really quite simple. Do what you said! Be a man/woman of your word! Photo credit: www.wordsonimages.com