CHARGE IT TO MY HEAD, NOT MY HEART

By Vernalee

Growing up, I remember hearing my Mother say, "Charge it to my head, not my heart."

Translated simply, it means that a person will not always remember certain key things and/or that a person gets busy and just forgets. You can substitute the word blame for charge to get a clearer definition. The phrase is a term of endearment in that the mind may forget, but the heart remembers. So when I error and make mistakes (particularly forgetting something that I should remember - (i.e. birthdays), charge it to my head, not my heart. Please bear with me and remember this! In my heart, you are precious, but sometimes because of the heaviness of my days, I simply forgot the occasion, but do know this - I didn’t forget you! I accept the blame for my oversights, recognize my human errors, and ask the people that I love and who love me for understanding. I ask you to charge it to my head - not my heart!

CAN’T PUT MY FINGER ON IT

By Vernalee

This expression, "I can't put my finger on it" - means to not be able to say/distinguish exactly what is wrong or different about a particular situation. Perhaps like you, I have found myself using that phrase, more often than not. I may see or hear something that doesn't look or feel right, but at that point in time, I may not have a clue to what it is. Like most things in life, time always tell. The cream always rises to the top. That instinctive feeling which led me to say, "I can't put my fingers on it" will one day become crystal clear. Then I will say, " Ah ha. I knew that it was something that didn’t add up; something that didn’t make sense.” Listen to your gut! It always sensibly talk to you. It always confirms what your pointed finger suspected!

YOU CAN’T HAVE YOUR CAKE AND EAT IT TOO

By Vernalee

“You can't have your cake and eat it (too) means that one cannot have two incompatible things, or that one should not try to have more than is reasonable. The proverb's meaning is similar to the phrases "you can't have it both ways" and "you can't have the best of both worlds." Choosing one or the other illustrates the concept of trade-offs or highlights that opportunity cost. Honesty and balance are critical to achieving your desired outcomes! For the record and for those inquisitive minds when we speak of real cake - drum roll please - caramel cake is my favorite! Yum!

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