ONE MAN'S TRASH IS ANOTHER'S TREASURE

By Vernalee

It's quite simple. What you may regard as worthless, may be extremely valuable to someone else! What you took for granted or considered as worthless may be highly regarded by another set of eyes. Trash or treasure... Sometimes obvious; sometimes not. It may be a point of view. It may be perception. It may even be reality. Stop the madness!

Be careful ... Remember what you threw away in that old tin garbage can of trash no longer belongs to you! So you have no reason to be upset when your thrown away rubbish becomes a shiny possession to someone else. Finders, keepers; losers, weepers!

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CAN YOU ADMIT YOU WERE WRONG/

By Vernalee

When we admit to mistakes and acknowledge that we were wrong, it shows that we are wiser today than we were before we offended or hurt someone. It shows courage. It validates that our actions do not always qualify us for a Medal of Honor. Think about it. What happens when you fail to do what is morally right? What if you do not do what you should have done? There are some who justify their reckless behavior. They convince themselves that they were right when in fact they were as wrong as “two left shoes” and they know it. If the U.S. Government has three branches as its checks and balances, it certainly justifies that our actions should not go unchecked. Right?

Should we consult with someone and get an outside opinion? It wouldn't hurt. Why then don't we? The answer is simple. They might tell us that our actions were wrong.

And of course, being wrong can’t be a correct response to a person who is never wrong! Hearing the words don’t rest well with their ears or souls! Besides, they have already justified that their wrongness was right! Check this out! Saying “I’m sorry” is a phrase that doesn’t exist in their vocabulary. That is why they take the steps to appease their conscience while caring less that others were hurt by what they said or did.

STOP! That does not exempt them from being thoughtful and considerate! Just ask the person who was hurt and offended by them! Their feelings were severely bruised while the offender’s feelings are in a nonchalant state and go unscathed. Something is wrong with that picture! It may take a while, but eventually, their wrong deeds will catch up with them ... sooner or later. They always do.

Remember ..."Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall." Proverbs 16:18.

Getting ahead of the story with an admission and if necessary an apology will make you a better person. Try it and see! It works every time and for certain is better than denial. Photo credit: www.medium.com

FORGIVENESS

By Vernalee

“Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense and let go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well.” It has been noted that forgiveness and our health are closely associated. When we forgive, the act helps to remove many associated negative emotions including among others – hatred, animosity, guilt, regret, remorse, blame, shame, and self-contempt. Essentially and often, forgiveness and forgetting go hand in hand. Some people forget, but they don’t forgive and vice versa. They hold tight to the infraction that produced the hurt. You can’t forgive what you won’t let go! God forgave us! Why can’t we forgive others? Therefore, it is imperative that we – forgive, forget, let go, and move on! It just can’t be lip service. If we hold onto those negative feelings that we should let go, stress and worry will likely follow. Forgiveness has healing powers. It will make us a better person and since there are associated health benefits, we will feel “lighter” and better ... when we are no longer carrying around the accompanying stress! Photo credit: www.unity..com