TRUE FRIENDS

By Vernalee

During the course of our lives, we meet many people. Nothing beats the ones who enter our lives and never leave. There’s a reason why they stay. You probably are itching to know the answer. It is no mystery or miraculous finding. Is it that we share the same values, goals, and objectives? Yes. Is it that we love them and they us? Yes. Is it that we need them to make our lives complete? Yes. There are a number of reasons that varies by individual prerogatives. Your spirits become intertwined. I have been fortunate to meet a few true friends that only time and distance separate. Whenever we see each other regardless of the time that has slipped by since our last visit, we pick up as if we glazed each other in the eye just yesterday. It’s a stickiness that cannot be erased; a glue that connects; a love that will hold and keep us together. It is the thought and the reality of knowing that someone is there in your time of need; during those moments when you need to spill your guts. My Mother always said, “God places people in your life.” We walk our trail not alone. Having a true friend on the journey makes the distance traveled worth the measured steps. When we are fortunate enough to find “true” friends who share our inner spirit, it is a treasure; a glittering diamond of sorts. They are rare, but hopefully you have encountered a few! I refer to them as the ones that are spiritually connected to us by God. True friends … are the ones with whom you share your stories of successes, failures, ups, downs, and turnarounds. Lest not forget the relating of those horror stories (nightmares of sorts) and stupid stuff that even you cannot believe that you did until your wisdom kicked in and convinced you of the dangers. Often, we discuss subjects that are embarrassing, but we need the advice of someone who cares enough to set us straight without judgment. Our innermost secrets are tucked inside their soul never to come out. They have stories that can never be told! Shhh! They laugh with us; they cry with us. They have a nudging bent on their knees from the constant prayers for us. They too are the ones who encourage and motivate you to do your best, connect you to the right people, and share not an ounce of jealousy. It becomes a mutual alliance. They truly want the best for you as you desire for them. For you to reach the highest height and soar like an eagle is their wish. Yes, it is unequivocally true that true friends are a rare commodity! I can testify. So I feel bless to have these valuable treasures of true friends in my life. It is a privilege as they don’t come around often. I don’t take them or what we have for granted. I thank God for them … and their families for sharing them with me. I thank them! Photo credit: www.picturequotes.com

FEELING GUILTY

By Vernalee

To feel guilt suggests that one has a conscientious conscience. Everyone has a conscience of some magnitude … I think. Do you feel guilt if you have wronged someone by saying or doing something negative, hurtful, false, or improper? A guilt ridden conscience should invoke action. It should make you say you are sorry and help you apologize. Guilt can be very weighty. Getting rid of it is a stress reduction.

But if you have a hardened disposition, your reasoning will always be one of blame. After all, it was not your fault. Never! If you are an “always blame the other person” type of individual, then there is no guilt to feel. When you have an inflatable aura and a repellent conscience, it begs to ask…Have you ever been on a guilt trip? I have! It is not a comfortable ride. Guilt should change things; even us! No one is perfect! Guilt, or should I say our acceptance of guilt, can become a factor that makes us better individuals. It makes us think about the infraction, how we treat people, relieves pressure, and causes one to act! Correcting our missteps to remove the emotional pain is a great first step. Shall we take the journey together? Photo credit: www.pathstohealing.com

WHAT A TANGLED WEB WE WEAVE

By Vernalee

“Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive” is a quotation by Sir Walter Scott, which I'm sure you’ll heard. It means that when you tell lies or act in a dishonest way, you create problems and complications which you cannot control.“ When this happens, things can so easily get out of hand and cause trouble. How?

First of all, a tangled web is a situation that is very confusing and difficult to understand. It is convoluted and caused by some form of deception. For certain and unequivocally, the truth is so much easier to manage and requires little or no effort. It has been long said that the truth can walk barefoot, while lies keep switching shoes. Further, “Never worry about who will be hurt if you tell the truth. Worry about who will be misled, deceived, and destroyed with your lies.”

If you’ll ever observed spiders, creating a web is a timely and intricate process. Thus, your time would be better spent in the building of truth. It’s so simple and easy. It‘s effortless and eliminates the confusion. No one gets injured in the process. You just open your mouth, let the spit from your tongue travel to your lips, and tell the truth.

Nothing can be simpler than that!

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