THE WAY PEOPLE TREAT YOU

By Vernalee

You can only control your behavior and actions; not those of others. You may receive undeserved and hurtful treatment from others. You can’t change them or their inflicted actions for those are tasks that only they can do. Don’t blame yourself for their actions. By no means, should you become a contributing party to bad conduct. Stay on guard as you constantly monitor your own conduct. You are not a prisoner of their war. You have options; exercise them. You never have to subject yourself to bad treatment. You can always leave!

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CHARGE IT TO MY HEAD, NOT MY HEART

By Vernalee

Growing up, I remember hearing my Mother say, "Charge it to my head, not my heart."

Translated simply, it means that a person will not always remember certain key things and/or that a person gets busy and just forgets. You can substitute the word blame for charge to get a clearer definition. The phrase is a term of endearment in that the mind may forget, but the heart remembers. So when I error and make mistakes (particularly forgetting something that I should remember - (i.e. birthdays), charge it to my head, not my heart. Please bear with me and remember this! In my heart, you are precious, but sometimes because of the heaviness of my days, I simply forgot the occasion, but do know this - I didn’t forget you! I accept the blame for my oversights, recognize my human errors, and ask the people that I love and who love me for understanding. I ask you to charge it to my head - not my heart!

DON'T ASSUME THAT YOUR FRIEND IS MINE'S

By Vernalee

A one way friend is a term not to be discounted. There is such a thing. Friends are not necessarily transferable. My friend may not be yours and vice versa. Compatibility is a huge factor in friendships. Be careful who you let inside your circle. Every one who's in may not be there to stay. There are conditions that determine duration. Under no circumstance should you play matchmaker with your friends (i.e. trying to make your friend someone else's). Let your friends pick their own friends just as you picked yours. What works for you friendship wise may not work for someone else. There are different strokes for different folks. Lastly, keep a friend's personal business to yourself. If they want your friend who is not theirs to know their business, let them share the news.

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