THROWING IN THE TOWEL

By Vernalee

Yes, that’s right! I’m throwing in the towel. I quit. I’m done! I cannot take it anymore! I've had enough!

Alright, let me clarify!

I‘m throwing in - not my own, but my

other people’s problems (OPP) towel.

You know some days, you just get tired;

sick and tired of OPP and their foolishness.

You get tired of being on their defense team listening to their problems – one after another. Oh, I forgot to tell you this! Other people's problems can stress you out and wear you thin. You start carrying their weight on your tired aching back! Shiny gray hairs become prolific on your head; not theirs! Admittedly, at times, I have allowed myself to become so engulfed with OPP that I became sidetracked and lost my balance. You have to be so very careful. Easy to do, but never do you want to put your matters on the back burner while tending to theirs!

By no means, am I saying that you should turn a deaf ear. Of course, not! We don’t have to completely turn our backs on them. However, at times, we must limit our time with OPP and energize our efforts toward our engagements and that of our loved ones. And that's not being selfish; that’s bring realistic.

So as I wipe the layers of sweat that is running down my face, I am tossing that once pure as white snowflake towel with the velocity of a 20 mph javelin throw. Watch it fly through the air like a towel trapeze!

I’m taking a mental health break from them to concentrate on me and mine! Photo credit: www.genuis.com

WERE YOU HUNG OUT TO DRY?

By Vernalee

Is that you?

Were you left hanging again?

Oh my, what an embarrassment for all to see!

You were not even afforded the courtesy to be concealed.

I know how you feel!

You are not alone.

I’ve been fooled and left hanging too!

Many of us have!

Why?

The answer is - Trust!

The person that we trusted; the person that we thought would do us no harm; yes - that person ( “Whatchamacallit”) left us once again hanging and blowing in the wind.

Stop the madness!

Don't get angry; don’t be sad.

You did nothing wrong.

You merely trusted them...that’s all.

You thought that this time around that they would not renege on their word and promises.

Once again ... a promise was made and broken; a commitment went unfulfilled; you were left in despair; you were deceived, and you became easy prey for someone else’s target practice.

It‘s even hard for you to believe that you let your guards down again!

What a shame!

You knew the signs and dangers all too well!

How did you allow this to happen twice?

Were you weak? Were you asleep at the wheel?

No!

You simply gave the person a second chance.

Did I mention ...

You have helped them time and time again and that you've taken the shirt off your back to give them. Suddenly, to them that didn't matter and for sure it didn't count. Suddenly, they have amnesia as to what you have done for them or the sacrifices that you have made.

Their new lyric is - “What have you done for me lately.”

That makes no sense because - everything is yesterday, but the present and future!

Here’s what I say because these very words were once said to me.

* Stop worrying yourself sick about your mistakes.

* You cannot control that they failed to give you what you gave them.

* You have to chalk it up to experience, learn from your mistakes and errors in judgment, and move on.

* You can always show people better than you can tell them!

* Realize that some folks aren’t worthy of your time! Dispose of them! What a waste! You are too wise to find yourself hanging on their emotional clothes line ever again! * Repeat after me.

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me!

Think about it.

Hanging around them ...made you super duper smart. It took a while but now you can see the forest from the trees!

Now, that you are no longer hanging, you can see the real person that they are!

Maybe, you should count that as a blessing in disguise!

I did!

Those who came before me and taught me - did too!

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WHO ARE THE BIGGEST SNOOPERS? MEN OR WOMEN?

By Vernalee

I was always told, “If you go looking for trouble, you will probably find it!”

Your suspicions will sometimes become proven facts, which leads me to the question of the hour ...

Who are the biggest snoopers?

Do men scoop more than women or vice versa?

When I initially asked a few colleagues and family members that question, their answers though not unanimous, but by a long shot was - Women.

Many believed that women go looking more than men.

What do you think?

Not being a private investigator and not knowing the universal answer, I found a partial answer at least to the cell phone snooping mystery.

A recent survey revealed that when it comes to snooping through a partner’s phone, the furtive culprit is the man!

Yes, that’s right! How many of you are surprised?

The survey revealed that 34% of Women and 66% of Men snooped through their partner’s phone. Wowser!

31% revealed that upon finding out the information that they snooped to discover that it was grounds for ending their relationship.

I don't know what gender snoops around the most in other categories, but I have this advice when it comes to those precious devices known as cell phones. It's quite simple.

You should probably erase what you don’t want people to see.

Can you hide everything?

Probably not, but it all depends upon what you are trying to conceal. For certain, if you leave visible evidence, there is a likelihood that it may definitively be seen. If so, how can you deny written proof and validating evidence produced through photographs, emails, and text messaging?

Some may argue that if it was so damaging to yield a relationship breakup, then the person probably should not have been doing what their partner suspected!

Though a legitimate theory, that question is not for me to answer! Who am I to pass moral judgment on someone else’s life? My hands are full. I don’t have the desire or time to snoop!

Here's the deal.

For those who are masters at coverups, they probably sweep their evidentiary trail clean leaving little or no evidence.

For the others who got caught, I’ll just say that someone forgot to push the delete button!

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For those of you who are inquisitive and want to know more results, keep reading. According to a very recent survey conducted by BankMyCell between 10/01/2018 to 10/31/2018 in the U.S., here are their findings:

68% of men have snooped on their partner’s phone, compared to 47% of women.

38% of men phone snoop without permission, compared to 24% of women.

Who knew their spouse’s phone passcode?

1 in 2 men know how to get into their partner’s phone and snoop.

1 in 3 women know their partner’s phone passcode.

27% of men regularly snoop on their partner’s social accounts, almost double the responses of women.

62% of men have snooped on their partner’s social media accounts.

56% of women have snooped on their partner’s social media accounts.

89% of men are looking for signs of cheating when snooping their partner’s phone.

70% of women are snooping their partner’s phone for traces of betrayal.

30% of women are simply snooping to be nosy.

And the beat and snooping continue.