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By Vernalee

“Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense and let go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well.” It has been noted that forgiveness and our health are closely associated. When we forgive, the act helps to remove many associated negative emotions including among others – hatred, animosity, guilt, regret, remorse, blame, shame, and self-contempt. Essentially and often, forgiveness and forgetting go hand in hand. Some people forget, but they don’t forgive and vice versa. They hold tight to the infraction that produced the hurt. You can’t forgive what you won’t let go! God forgave us! Why can’t we forgive others? Therefore, it is imperative that we – forgive, forget, let go, and move on! It just can’t be lip service. If we hold onto those negative feelings that we should let go, stress and worry will likely follow. Forgiveness has healing powers. It will make us a better person and since there are associated health benefits, we will feel “lighter” and better ... when we are no longer carrying around the weighty accompanying stress! Photo credit:



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