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.By Vernalee

It's been said,"Holding grudges can be just as damaging to the grudge-holder as the person who the grudge is being held against. Holding a grudge means that you are living with a feeling of anger almost constantly, even if it's below the surface"

What does this mean? I’m glad that you asked!

Holding a grudge is defined as " hanging on to intense anger or dislike for someone based upon a real or perceived wrongdoing."

Alright, don't act innocent as if you don't know what I am talking about. Most of us have held grudges before. Let’s be truthful. Admission is the first step. Right?

And ... If you have ever held a grudge, you can probably attest to the resulting harm that it causes. Like a plant, grudges take roots and grow like running vines attaching themselves to surfaces like an adhesive. This is why they are hard to shake and detach. Unquestionably, the process can produce physical and psychological damage. The repercussions can be great. Stress is bound to occur. Think about it. Keeping another person's acts of wrongdoing in your mind is totally unhealthy.

Letting go of the associated anger and dislike is the antidote; the needed cure. And when you do, it places you on the road to recovery as does forgiveness. Besides why waste your valuable time and personal space possessed with negative thoughts of others when undoubtedly they may not be thinking of you; not even remotely! You’re holding the grudge. You’re suffering. Not them!

Though difficult it may be, the release valve must be turned on!

As for grudges .... let them go! Sure it’s difficult to do; it’s work - but it’s well worth the tasks. We deserve the freedom that it will yield. Our mind, body, and soul will most definitely thank us!

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May 19, 2020

Thank you for following and sharing. I appreciate your comments.


May 19, 2020

So true!


May 19, 2020

I just love these posts. I have been promoting them to a lot of people I know. I pray you are doing well Verna and all the family is safe. Please keep them coming.


May 19, 2020

I concur

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