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By Vernalee

According to the definition, to throw (someone) under the bus means to sacrifice another person (often a friend or ally), who is usually not deserving of such treatment, out of malice or for personal gain. I hear this colloquial expression all too often. Though it is an idiom, its meaning is bigger than life. I am sure that it (being thrown under the bus) has happen to you at some point in your life; as it has to me – quite a few times. In fact, more than I care to remember.

The act is unquestionably more serious than someone spitefully snitching or being a traitorous “Benedict Arnold,” although those actions are indeed hurtful as well. To be thrown under the bus is a terrible deed, but to be kicked into the streets beforehand is bona fide cruelty.

Don’t you agree?

How can it be argued that the kick was not intentional? How can the person say that they didn't mean to do it?

Unquestionably, with the – egregious kick and throw routine – a person becomes mincemeat by someone purportedly that he/she trusted.

Because of the closeness of your relationship, you didn't see it coming.


Sure this can occur in the physical sense, but let‘s discuss those figurative and emotional kicks.

Characteristically, without question, emotional bruises are the toughest to diagnose and treat.

Our feelings are so hurt, because we did not expect to be pushed nonetheless ran over with unkindness. It was done in such a fashion that it was no time for avoidance; no time to get out of the way! It was harrowing and terrifying!

Can I get a witness?

Constituting more than just target practice, a little kick hurts your feelings and can tear you down emotionally. It has a taunting sting.


Your emotions are so damaged because other people witnessed the kick. You can‘t lie or hide what happened.

What should you do?

I’m glad you asked!

You have to pick yourself up.

You have to go on.

Whether the person that kicked you receive a slap later on their derriere doesn't matter. Trust me - They'll get what's coming to them.

What matters is your ability to pick yourself up and bounce back after the fall. Photo reprint:



Oct 26, 2019

Thank you for your comments which were flavorfully expressed to bring home the point!


Ruth Evans
Ruth Evans
Oct 26, 2019

Getting thrown under the bus, in the bus, over the bus; my life story. People who throw other people under the bus have no morals, no values. These are self-centered people with no honor and lack pride and true character. They are usually jealous of the the person thrown or envious of that person for some reason. Also, it’s usually done in a slick and sly way.

Now don’t get me wrong, if a person has done something wrong that can be detrimental to the well-being of others or themselves, telling the truth on them is not equivalent to being thrown under the bus. But when I think of getting thrown under the bus, it makes me think of lying…

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