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WHY ARE YOU BEATING AROUND THE BUSH?

By Vernalee

Why are you beating around the bush?

People tend to 'beat about the bush' when trying to avoid talking about an embarrassing or difficult topic. It can be very uncomfortable. “I get it.” In many cases, we reason that it is the best thing to do. It’s a sticky subject. Therefore, we skirt around the issue and talk about everything else. Of course, it’s not desirable to hurt anyone’s feeling which is why we play this game of avoidance in the first place. Who wants to bruise or injure someone’s feelings? Not me!

I’m still trying to wrap my arms around this sensitivity when in general it is not a reciprocal act In that some folks don’t care whether their acts or words hurt your feelings. Go figure! Anyway, call me silly, but I am of the belief that most people don’t take pleasure in hurting other’s feelings. Right? So what’s next.

Sometimes playing the avoidance game doesn’t work. Admittedly, it‘s a razor thin line. We may end up hurting the person more when we don’t come clean with the truth. Finding diplomatic avenues and the right words may be the best route. The path of improvement and correction for their lives may be achieved faster with our honesty vs. our beating around the bush … by concealing the truths. 

We can’t always rely on people learning the hard way and/or getting the message. The bush may shed its leaves eventually … or we can step in with the truth and let the “chips fall where they may!” Photo credit: www.englishunite.com

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